When Luke Nichols casts his line into the water, he’s not just fishing; he’s reeling in life lessons on the essence of modern masculinity. Similarly, Tony Polcari navigates the cityscape, his lifestyle a canvas showcasing how vibrant urban living aligns with ageless virtues. This episode stitches together the narratives of these two extraordinary men, revealing the tapestry of hard work, integrity, and respect that forms the core of genuine manhood. Their diverse paths converge on a shared truth: that masculinity, at its finest, is about nurturing without the need for showing off your outer strength.
Have you ever wondered how mental fortitude can be honed like a blade, sharp enough to cut through life’s toughest challenges? That’s precisely what Cam Haynes and David Goggins have mastered. Their insights form a critical part of our discussion on the power of directness and the art of difficult conversation. This episode becomes a crucible, transforming old-school virtues into modern-day strategies for anyone willing to embrace the journey toward self-awareness.
As the saying goes, the more things change, the more they stay the same. This rings true as we explore the ancient wisdom of the Bushido code, finding these ancient principles not just relevant but vital in our present-day hustle. Whether it’s the discipline of never dining alone or the transformative ‘I get to’ mindset, these values are the cornerstones of our daily interactions and personal standards.
I invite you to walk the path of discovery with me, carrying forward the lessons that have withstood the trials of time, for a tomorrow that’s built on the bedrock of integrity and self-improvement.
Me and my boys, Tommy, Nate and Jacob are the Outdoor Boys. We love all things outdoors: family projects and adventures, travel, forging, camping, camp fire cooking, fossil hunting, magnet fishing, metal detecting, goofing around whatever we darn-well feel like!!
Anthony ‘Tony’ Polcari
Cooking, fashion, and adulting tips. Helping you navigate your 20s! Positive masculinity.
“Real masculinity is confidence. It’s strength. It’s nurturing. It’s positive. [It] isn’t some puffed-up, showboating thing you must prove every second of every day. The manliest guys will never tell you how masculine they are,” – Via The Pump
“Vibrant masculinity means it’s okay to be assertive, to go after your dreams, to want a leadership role,” Polcari says. “But at the same time, to also know when it’s time to sit back, listen and let someone else take the lead as well. It also means we can hang out with friends, joke around, be sarcastic…but [we can still] lift each other up, give them a hug, have those intimate conversations and build those bonds that last a lifetime, as well.”
Dr. Andrew Huberman
Andrew Huberman, Ph.D., is a neuroscientist and tenured professor in the department of neurobiology, and by courtesy, psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Stanford School of Medicine. He has made numerous significant contributions to the fields of brain development, brain function and neural plasticity, which is the ability of our nervous system to rewire and learn new behaviors, skills and cognitive functioning.
Cameron ‘Cam’ Hanes
Cameron Hanes is a renowned American bowhunter, endurance athlete, and influencer. Born on October 2, 1967, he gained widespread recognition for his exceptional bowhunting skills, often pursuing big game in challenging environments. Hanes is also known for his commitment to physical fitness, regularly engaging in extreme endurance activities. As a motivational speaker and author, he shares insights on bowhunting, fitness, and the mental fortitude required for such pursuits. Hanes has built a significant following on social media, where he continues to inspire outdoor enthusiasts and fitness enthusiasts alike with his adventures and dedication to pushing personal limits.
I DON’T KNOW WHAT I’M DOING – David Goggins Advice
Rekindling Old-School Virtues in Modern Living
Embrace Mindfulness and Presence
Incorporate mindfulness practices into daily routines. Whether through meditation or simply being fully present in activities, cultivating awareness enhances the quality of relationships and overall well-being.
How I do this:
- Think “I GET to do this; instead of, I HAVE to do this”
- Memento mori ‘You could leave this world today’ or ‘remember you must die’ & other stoic thinking
- Put down the phone and be there.
- Work on self-awareness – journaling, therapy, like minded friendships
Prioritize Face-to-Face Connections
In a world dominated by virtual interactions, prioritize face-to-face connections. Plan gatherings with friends and family, fostering a sense of camaraderie and strengthening personal relationships.
How I do this:
- Never eat alone, get lunch with Mentors
- Cultivate relationships where you actually have discussons
Set and Uphold Personal Standards
Define personal standards and commit to upholding them. Whether in professional conduct or personal relationships, having a clear set of values provides a solid foundation for navigating life’s complexities.
How I do this:
- Tooting my own horn: I want to live up to the standard of ‘Not talking shit about others’ and the other day I ran into a person I used to know and he was asking me some lightly intrusive questions about someone else; instead of just talking with him about this person, I said “You’ll have to ask them if you want to know”… it felt a bit rough in the moment but what I know now is that, this person isn’t my real friend, the person he was asking about really is… so…
Seek Continuous Self-Improvement
Adopt a mindset of continuous self-improvement. Much like the Samurai’s commitment to lifelong learning, the modern man can pursue personal and professional development, embracing new skills and knowledge.
How I do this:
- Make the time to : Read, Journal, Self-Analyize
- How I utilize Social Media
Practice Acts of Kindness
Incorporate acts of kindness into daily life. Whether through small gestures or more significant contributions to the community, practicing benevolence fosters a sense of connection and fulfillment.
How I do this:
- It doesn’t have to be BIG things. Mostly I just do and say nice things and genuinely practice NOT having any expectations from the person I do it for.
——— EPISODE CHAPTERS WITH FULL SUMMARIES ———
(0:00:01) – Old School Values for Modern Men
Modern masculinity is exemplified by hard work, integrity, and respect through the examples of Luke Nichols and Anthony Polcari.
(0:12:03) – Embracing Mindfulness and Discipline
Prominent figures like Cam Haynes and David Goggins teach hard work, discipline, authenticity, and integrity for personal growth.
(0:20:00) – Masculine Traits and Self-Improvement
Being present and grateful, Stoic principle of Memento Mori, face-to-face connections, personal standards and values, self-improvement.
(0:30:32) – Bushido Code for Modern Men
Bushido values of samurai – rectitude, courage, benevolence – promote self-improvement and meaningful connections through personal growth.
(0:42:28) – Path to Self-Awareness and Discovery
Invitation to self-awareness and discovery, resources on website, gratitude for listeners, importance of practice, future connection.
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