It is easy to compare yourself to others. To look at other people’s lives, careers, knowledge, skills and/or fitness and feel a little;
Jealous. Resentful. Defeated even…
This is where the subconscious mind starts to make up justifications. It will justify your unwillingness to take action by creating excuses:
It is so, so, so easy to do nothing at all…
That is your ego talking to you. That’s fine.
Go ahead. Do nothing… if that’s what you want… listen to your ego.
But know that
YOU doing nothing
is YOUR choice.
You are choosing this.
All of the excuses you tell yourself… Are lies.
Don’t be mad about the results you didn’t get,
from the work you didn’t put in.
Ego is the enemy
Our Ego will try to defend us either consciously or subconsciously when it feels the need. When it feels like we might fail. When it senses that we are feeling stress. Or when we’re staring down the barrel at a task we don’t really want to do. Or when we’re just tired.
Ego: A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity. More on ego.
Ego will sneak up on us late at night or early in the morning when we know we should be doing the things that will get us to the goals we’ve set.
Goals? Yeah, those things, goals.
Getting the results you want starts with setting some.
This is the hard to start part for most of us. Not because we don’t think big and definitely not because we don’t want to see results, but because that little bastard ‘ego’ will steal what little faith we have in our own ability to do so.
I’ve been coaching CrossFit for almost two years now and i’ve been teaching Martial Arts in one capacity or another for about as long. I’ve seen so many goals not reached and way too many broken commitments in just this short amount of time.
Something i’ve noticed is that after so many missed goals and broken commitments we will begin to dislike ourselves and even start to believe we cannot do the things we originally set out to do.
Do you ever think to yourself: Why can’t I do the things everyone else does?
Okay smart guy, how do I start to dig my way out of this? How can I get results and start checking off some stuff from my goals list?
The one thing i’ve seen successful people do that those less-successful don’t do. They keep their promises. They value their commitments. They show up on time and get the work done. Not just to others, but to themselves.
If you want to get after your goals and make up some ground. Even if it’s just 10 minutes of exercise, or an hour of heads down focused writing. Successful people will let NOTHING get in the way of those commitments.
Not a tiring work day, not a rainy cold day, not a dead car battery, not missing lunch, not a headache, not even an injury… If you made a promise or set a commitment to show up, if you said you’d do it, then you better goddamn do it. Especially when other people are involved.
You have to go to war against your ego. Ego is our enemy.
It will lie to you, it will try to trick you, it will convince you of things in direct conflict with your promises and commitments. Every. Single. Time…
When you’ve finally had enough. When you get to the point where you decide that, your word, the promises and commitments you’ve made are stronger and more powerful than your reasons and excuses you will build integrity.
When you have integrity to fight ego with, you can then call upon dignity to help as well. Then things start to get real. The fight get’s easier, you start to win some battles and before long you find confidence and peace of mind that you are doing the things you need to do to reach your goals.
That is how results are earned.
That is how winners are created.