Get ready for an interesting chat with my guest host, Darren Norris @norrisactual, as we explore different aspects of masculinity, moving away from what you’d normally expect from someone like Arnold Schwarzenegger. We discuss our views on masculinity; covering teamwork, self-discipline, and facing challenges head-on. We also dive into our life experiences, highlighting qualities like strength and the importance of learning life skills. Through personal stories, we stress the value of integrity and character. The discussion extends to topics like inspiration, wisdom, and how staying active contributes to mental well-being. We touch on societal views of masculinity, emphasizing the need to break free from expectations. Wrapping up, we reflect on fitness, self-discipline, and the impact of positive character traits on our lives. Join us for this thought-provoking talk, encouraging you to embrace your own version of masculinity without conforming to societal norms.

From Arnold’s Email Newsletter:

Qualities Of Rugged And Flexible Masculinity

Here are some of Arnold’s core qualities of rugged and flexible masculinity:

1. Genuine Strength
   Clear-headedness, composure, and stability amid uncertainty. The ability to respond to challenging circumstances instead of reacting. (Not to be confused with chest-thumping, peacocking, or machismo acts of power.)
2. Wisdom
   Allowing yourself to be open and shaped by experience. Not being scared of change, and not being scared to change. Knowing your core values, the hills you’ll die on, but being willing to apply them in different ways and circumstances.
3. Emotional flexibility
   Feeling your feelings and being able to name them, talk about them, and let them move through you instead of repressing or fusing with them.
4. Humility
   Knowing what you don’t know, which, for almost all of us, is the vast majority of everything. Understanding that your view of the world is merely one of billions. Being curious instead of certain, open instead of closed.
5. True confidence
   Not feeling the need to intimidate, one-up, or make others feel bad to be okay with yourself. Realizing that confidence is an inside game. Knowing that when you aren’t feeling okay with yourself, that’s fine too—asking for help when you need it is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength.
6. Physicality
   Connecting to your body and being grateful for what it can do. Maintaining your health so that you can show up, protect, and care for those around you for a long time.

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(0:00:01) – Exploring Masculinity through an email sent by Arnold Schwarzenegger (5 Minutes)

The topic of masculinity, with the hosts sharing their thoughts and experiences on the subject. They focus on the traits and characteristics associated with masculinity, rather than gender or sexual orientation. The hosts mention Arnold Schwarzenegger and his iconic roles in the 80s and 90s, which often portrayed a Hollywood version of masculinity. However, they also acknowledge that there is more to him than just his on-screen persona. They then discuss their own personal experiences and perspectives on masculinity, emphasizing the importance of teamwork and upbringing in shaping a person’s character. Overall, this chapter provides an insightful and thought-provoking conversation on the complex topic of masculinity.

(0:05:02) – Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Qualities of Masculinity (10 Minutes)

The qualities of rugged and flexible masculinity as discussed by Arnold Schwarzenegger in his book and email newsletter. We discuss the concept of genuine strength and how it can be defined in various ways, including facing challenges in life and physical fitness. We also touch on the importance of self-discipline and motivation in achieving goals. The conversation then shifts to the idea of relying on oneself and the importance of being capable in basic skills, such as changing a tire. We share personal experiences and lessons learned from our fathers, highlighting the importance of integrity and character. Despite imperfect circumstances, we emphasize the value of learning from parents and passing on positive traits to future generations.

(0:15:25) – Inspiration, Wisdom, and Emotional Flexibility (8 Minutes)

The topic of wisdom and inspiration through a conversation between the host and a guest. They discuss how the guest, an actor and musician, is a hard worker and a great example of someone who inspires others through his dedication and self-discipline. They also mention other inspiring individuals, such as a friend who started a veteran foundation and an 82-year-old man who continues to stay active. The conversation highlights the importance of physical activity for mental health and how wisdom is simply the result of experience. Overall, this chapter emphasizes the power of inspiration and its impact on our lives.

(0:22:58) – Exploring Masculinity and Emotional Expression (7 Minutes)

The topic of masculinity and its perception in society. The hosts share personal experiences with their fathers and how traditional ideas of masculinity have influenced them. They also discuss the concept of “flexible masculinity” and the importance of expressing emotions and not conforming to societal expectations. The hosts emphasize the value of humor and tangible ways to improve one’s life, rather than getting caught up in the show business of social media. They mention the influence of popular figures like David Goggins and Jocko Willink in shaping the idea of masculinity. Overall, this chapter encourages listeners to embrace their own version of masculinity and not be swayed by societal norms.

(0:29:46) – Building a Template and Emotional Intelligence (13 Minutes)

Self-discipline, emotional flexibility, and the importance of managing emotions in various aspects of life. We discuss our personal experiences and how we have achieved our goals through hard work and emotional intelligence. We also touch on the importance of being good to one’s partner in a relationship and the blessings of having a drama-free marriage. The conversation ends with a reflection on the common template of graduating college, getting married, having kids, and then getting divorced, and how to break away from this pattern.

(0:42:28) – Importance of Humility and Action (14 Minutes)

The importance of humility in leadership and the workplace. We discuss how we have implemented a culture of open communication and respect in our own workplaces, encouraging team members to speak up and contribute ideas. We also touch on the issue of ego and how it can hinder progress and create tension in interactions with others. The conversation emphasizes the value of humility in being a true professional, whether leading or following. We share personal experiences and examples of how humility has positively impacted our own work environments.

(0:56:12) – Physical Fitness and Self-Discipline Importance (10 Minutes)

The importance of connecting with your body and maintaining your health to show up, protect, and care for others. We explore how Arnold Schwarzenegger, known for using his body to forge his successful career, highlights this concept. We also discuss how physical fitness relates to cognitive performance and confidence. Self-discipline and having a plan to achieve goals are stressed. Additionally, we touch on how cultural and biological influences shape our understanding of masculinity and femininity. The chapter concludes with the reminder that positive influences in our lives can inspire us to be our best selves.

(1:05:48) – Positive Character Attributes and Building Relationships (1 Minutes)

The impact of positive character attributes on our lives. We focus on the importance of taking action and pursuing our goals, rather than just talking about them. Additionally, we discuss the benefits of traveling and experiencing new things, likening it to building frequent flyer miles. Ultimately, this chapter encourages listeners to prioritize their actions and mindset in order to achieve their goals and live a fulfilling life.

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